Comments on: why do internet fights hurt me so?

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Fri, 07 Jan 2011 14:06:10 +0000

Internet fights are stupid.
Its pointless and a waste of time, the person doesn’t know who you are, if they say ridiculous things about you, your family or your appearance ‘like your fat’ or ‘you’re ugly’ how would they know? (unless this person is Facebook stalking you)

And I hate spammers and trolls who get their daily kicks by starting fights…really, get a life or something.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 07:23:32 +0000

I know, right? So one time, on YouTube, I saw a huge internet fight between these two people because one spammed (They said, “I have the lyrics to Sweet Escape by Gwen Stefani on my channel”) and the other was highly irritated by the spammer. It was fun to watch, but I wondered if they were just joking or if they were seriously furious at each other. And then, again, they could have sent many more nasty or humorous personal messages to each other.

Well, here’s my answer: Some people probably feel a bit more sensetive to what people they don’t know say about them. For example, since you probably don’t know me and I said something nasty like, “You’re fat,” or something, you’d probably feel steam because you don’t know me, there’s no way to get back, and most of all, you probably don’t know how to handle it. But if I was a kid going to your school and I said something nasty like the one above, you would know how to deal with the situation, there would be well-known people around you, and everything would just be easier to handle.

Now, another thing: some people on the internet may have a short temper, whether it’s just a part of their nature or they failed a test, or they got fired from their job. Those short-temptered people may think it’s going to alleviate some stress if they go and intentionally pick a fight and/or hurt someone else’s feelings. That’s when you just let go and say, “Well, I know it’s not my fault, and this person must be grumpy or angry for some reason, so I’ll just let them deal with their own issues… on their own.”

Well, I hope I helped. Bye!

By: Boris

Boris — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 03:42:14 +0000

put another way: loss of physicality (or threat of physical escalation, i.e. getting yer ass whooped), amongst other [psychological/emotional] things, brings out the worst out in people.

and an opportunity to bring out the best… :)

Douglas Addams put it as “the worst possible social desease: telepathy.”

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By: Justin

Justin — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 17:08:03 +0000

I think in the real world there is a natural point at which people walk away – both literally and figuratively. They either literally walk away from the person who they are having issues with and/or there is a point at which everyone backs down because further escalation could result in violence. On the internet there is no such point and there is no ‘walking away’. I mean you can walk away from your computer, but if you return to the same online communities the person is likely to still be there.

There is also the time issue – if I have trouble with someone at my neighborhood coffee shop I can still go there and odds are we won’t both go at the same time. Online the time doesn’t matter. I post a message and you come along 12 hours later but the message is still there etc.,

By: Chris Hughes

Chris Hughes — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 15:58:00 +0000

Think of it as a positive that you still get uptight. I am sure some communities are so used to it, that they would only feel numb about it.